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Doors Widely Swung

My heart keeps open house,
My doors are widely swung.
An epic of the eyes
My love, with no disguise.
Open House
Theodore Roethke

The bravest kind of writing is that done from the heart, an open heart, with no agenda other than sharing pain or joy or something else that's real about what it is be a human.

This past week, I was privileged to read some of that kind of writing and I am grateful to the souls who risked putting it out there.

Because it is such a risk. The times I've done it, I come away from it kind of stunned. Maybe amazed that I had the guts to be honest, maybe relieved -- because that kind of honesty is an unburdening.

But there's a cost to catharsis.

The nakedness of just being who you are, defenses down, for everyone to see. That takes tremendous courage. You're putting your skinless self into the hands of those who make the time and have an interest in looking deep into your metaphoric eyes.

I hope the people who shared pain through their blogs this week know that we know you gave us a gift.

We held it gently in our hands for a few minutes, thought about it for much longer and now carefully give you back those memories, having shared them for a while.

Thank you: for allowing us to be a part of your grief (we hope it helped) and for allowing us the honor of your vulnerability.

Thank you.

illustration: Duncan Long


Blogger AP3 said...


You're awfully sweet. Thank you.

7:53 PM

Blogger katiedid said...

All I can do is second your motion. Or ditto the sentiment. Or something. I am a lousy commenter.

8:04 PM

Blogger Tan Lucy Pez said...

You ARE sweet. Ain't no way around it.

9:29 PM

Blogger Laura said...

I'm with Katiedid. Mireille, compassion and eloquence are a stunning combination.

2:20 AM

Blogger ParisLondres said...

You are the best dear M! I love your compassionate writing so much and for all your thoughtfulness.


3:34 AM

Blogger red-queen said...

What is it about this week? i too have encountered some incredibly powerful, raw emotion through blogs this week, whereas up to now it's mostly been fun, quirky stuff.

In some ways, it's easier to share pain with strangers - most people are actually more likely to tell their story to the person in the next plane seat, knowing they'll never see each other again, than to their friends and coworkers. The same anonymity that allows random cruelty to flourish on the www, also can enable emotional risk-taking. Either way, we feel free to open up - what comes out depends on whether we use our pain to punish others or to connect with them in a deeply empathic way.

Thanks for lovely naming and celebrating of this phenomenon, Mireille.

6:02 AM

Blogger cjblue said...

M, you always find the most beautiful quotes, and your own writing is just wonderful. You really have an amazing way of expressing yourself.

Thank you for bringing this to my attention, thanks to the sharing people for sharing.

6:38 AM

Blogger schnoodlepooh said...

Bravery and eloquence - such a wonderful combination. You gotta love those Pez's.

PS I'm going to add you to my blogroll if that's okay with you.

9:22 AM

Blogger Urban Chick said...

you're bang on, M (as ever)

11:23 AM

Blogger actonbell said...

I agree you're awfully sweet:)
--thank you
(and I admire red-queen's comment)

2:01 PM

Blogger still life said...

what wonderful words to describe the writing...i was at a loss. Brave to trust their hearts.

8:37 PM


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